Category: Zone BBS Suggestions and Feedback
Just like the addictions graffitti board, I think we should have an Overcomers board. This board would be for those who have overcome things such as: sexual abuse, a natural disaster, a violent crime, a traumatic injury, physical abuse, attempted suicide or other things. It could either be for people currently experiencing something who are looking for comfort or advice or it could be a way for people to discuss their experiences and ways of coping.
That's a good idea!
I'm trying really, really hard to overcome a strong urge to say something really sarcastic here.
why not use health and wellness
I think there should be a graffiti board just for me, where I can bitch and whine about all the people who have my name in their cocksuckers, about the people who tell other people I shouldn't be trusted, about the people who share my picture with those who then say I look like a fat ugly troll.
It's all so mean and traumatic, that I should have a graffiti board all for myself, unless just unless I can be a survivor too, and share your board with you, so I can feel all warm and fuzzy and loved by all those others that have survived like me the trauma of life and the zone as mean and hateful a place as it all is.
No no, this board should really be one of a kind or even posted in Let's talk. There are a lot of fears and phobias people have to overcome and not just to do with health and wellness.
For example, I'm in a new relationship just now and my BF Kris, took me to meet his family last week. Now they have three dogs. Aw'w'w bless to some people, but aw'w'w'w shit, to me. To cut a very long story short, I've had some not very pleasant experiences with not very well trained or disciplined dogs over the years, especially those dogs in my own family, so it was a real turning point for me when both 2.5 year old Borris the Rotweiller, code name Bozzle and Kris, both gave me the confidence to finally, after so many years, go for the physical and emmotional approach. That Thursday morning, it all started when I finally, followed in Kris's lead and made myself put a hand out and stroke Borris's ears. Can't remember exactly what I said to him of course, but for the next three or so days I was there before we went back to some friends for a pre-arranged engagement, it all kind of sorted itself out. Now, Borris could see that I wasn't really confident around him or Poppy, a Staffordshire Bull Terrior/colly cross who also took an instant liking to me, so he kind of well, helped me along a bit. Out came his tongue when his head was on my knee and I was stroking and talking to him and it just developed from there, with him licking my right hand for all it was worth, distracting me from my fears or misgivings I had about him or Poppy, Toby, the bigger of the two smaller dogs being kind of funny and too shy to let any strange people bother with him. Anyway, Borris then moved on from hand washing and being O so cute, to playing with my hands with his teeth, giving me his paw, sitting next to me on the bed while I cuddled or stroked him or whatever while I was multi tasking on a borrowed laptop, to choosing to sit by my chair in the dining room at mealtimes. By the end of my stay, any time a door was left open to any room I just happened to be in, we were off our guard and Borris would wander in, especially to see me. Breakthrough. We're off back up to Kris's on Tuesday to spend Christmas with his family for Christmas and new year, so plenty more opportunities for me to play with this unusually gentle rotty giant, lol.
Jen.
lmao kev, omg
When I read the title of this I thought you were going to propose a board for members of the Overcomer ministry, you know the Brother Stair massive. Why can't there be a board just for them?
Hahahaha to the sarcastic responses thus far. I like them. But seriously. I havent' check this out lately, but the last time I read the Addicts board on Grafiti, no one was taking it seriously. If a board such as the one S&R is proposing really got created, I don't think anyone would take that seriously, either. The responses to this suggestion show that. Second, I dont' know why anyone in their right mind would want to be airing their really deep personal stuff on here. It would only get used against you in some way.
Yeah, at least on the graffiti board you can save your dignity, cause you can be annonymous.
That's why I suggested it as a graffiti board.
Yeah, do it as a graffiti board because people will never take you seriously on this thing. And that is no fault of the creators. People just enjoy making others feel hell when they don't have to pay for it. And really now, you guys are hilarious. Not that people give a fuck, but some others would appreciate help through problems even if they have to resort to internet boards like this one. So just go on and make a joke like you always will because it's just so funny, isn't it?
Agreed, although the thoughtless responses on this board prove that even some premium members aren't above making people feel like shit. I personally think the Overcomers' Board is a good idea. Some people are helped by a supportive network of others from whom to draw more strength. And the fact that certain people would speak so derisively to others who are merely discussing a board topic with which they don't agree shows an utter lack of regard for others' feelings, as well as the fact that they have fuck all better to do. So honestly, get over yourselves.
Thank you Inuprincess2006. Sorry, I don't know your name. I am very aware that not everyone thinks it's a good idea, but for goodness sake, grow up and just say that you disagree and move on and stop with the pointless derogatory comments. A joke here and there is fine. I honestly thought some people were pretty funny. But, I suppose that's the nature of most people on here; to look cool in front of your little blink friends. Good job.
I made my point simply as I think wanting a new board for every little thing gets a little beyond a joke. I don't personally think that making a board for this kind of thing would be productive, even when points are made anonymously on the graffiti boards, others will ridicule, they will make you feel just as crap because you know the sarcasm, the derisian is aimed at you, even if the poster of such comments doesn't think so. why not just do what people usually do, and make friends, good close trustworthy friends, who can and will support you, that is far better than putting out some of the information some of you have on the other board.
Finally as an alternative, you will find there are a 101 Email groups that deal with this kind of support already available on yahoo and google groups, go check it out.
I totaly agree with the above post. Find a live support group or an e-mail list, but I personally cringe when I read too much personal information about someone here on the zone just because they feel like getting something off their chest. The "saddest day of your life" is one such topic. I've had a lot of sad days, and my true friends and relatives know about them, but I'm not about to share that stuff with people I don't know or care about on an online community.
And that is completely your decision. Others, however, may feel differently. Furthermore, if you have no desire to look at a topic, then don't. It's as simple as that.
Namaste,
Becky
I don't think people on this site are very educated, therefore, won't regard each other's feelings or take anything else seriously. If you want support, join the ACB or NFB for mature blind adult discussion.
Oh my God! You call people in those organizations mature? I've met some real idiots there too.
To the poster who said it's my decision, yes I know it is. I was just expressing my opinion as I have a right to do. And my opinion is that I just can't understand people wanting to spill there guts on a public forum. To me that's just attention seeking and rather pathetic. There are much better ways to get support for your problems or brag about overcoming addictions or whatever. Telling someone in a one-on-one conversation is one thing, but posting a board topic about it just to get attention is just not my style and seems sad to me that people feel the need to do this.
As I said previously, I understand that it may not be a good idea to some people. So thanks for your advice and suggestions, Keven. The thing that bothers me the most are the people that think they have to seem cool by posting smart-ass comments one after the other, just to be a smart-ass, and therefore are incapable of proving any kind of point. I do appreciate most comments on here, and I am very receptive to the fact that copious amounts of drama do exist here, and I see bothe the benefits and drawbacks of such a board. Thanks again.
Becky, I understand what you're saying, but you fail to see the other side of it. While some people may indeed use public forums to play the victim card and seek attention, it is not true of all people who use such forums. To say so is a stereotype, much like the stereotype that all people in the ACB and NFB are immature.
As I said before, it's fine if it's not your way of coping with the past, but it should not be dismissed for that reason alone.
Well then, Becky, you should be glad I'm not in a position to decide whetheror not to install such a board. I've just seen too many attention seeking drama queens and kings on public qn's to want a whole board category just for them. But perhaps I am stereotyping and perhaps such a board wouldn't be a total waste of space.
Hi, all. Maybe it was harsh of me to find the sarcastic comments funny, but that's primarily because I have a sarcastic sense of humor myself. I'm poasting to this topic again because I want to make one thing clear. I am not dissing those who need support in some way. As some of you may have seen, I bit off another users head for her comments against people who need therapy on another board. I understand the need for support, believe me. But I think you have to be very careful where to find that support, or who you find it from. Often times, this site is not a good place. That's why I made the comment about people in their right mind airing deep personal problems. If you do that on the Zone, more often than not the information will get used against you in some way, and you'll only end up getting hurt. I think such a board as S&R is suggesting would only cause more hurt than help for the people who take it seriously. That's why I'm against it.
Yes, that's definitely a good thing to keep in mind. But honestly, when you think about it, unless someone has your personal information such as your last name, address, or Social Security number (the revelation of any of which will mean a permanent ban from the Zone and many other sites), what can they really do that is so scary? As long as you're comfortable with what you reveal, who gives a damn how others use it? Your real friends will not turn against you because of what other people say. Furthermore, if you don't let what others say get to you, then all they've accomplished is making themselves look pathetic by stirring up shit.
Namaste,
Becky
Yeah, and this was meant to be topic where people post how they go over fvarious fears, addictions, bad experiences in lifeEtc Etc, it started out with oo, two or three Zoners postingthings they managed to "overcome" like my own bad experiences with dogs and how a 2.5-year-old Rotweiller is now helping me get over previous bad experiences with other dogs in the past. Could we therefore, please, get back on topic?
Jen.
No Jen, this particular topic is not for posting about what you've overcome. It's for discussing the creation of a board where such topics could be discussed. So, all of us have been on topic. It was you, in post 6, who got pretty side-tracked.
Okay, this site should be called the hate zone. All people do is spew hatred at each other without regard for how others might feel.
Oh, sorry, meant to put this in my last post. Becky ,you raise a good point. I guess posting addictions and other psychological information on here is kind of like going on Dr. Laura, or Dr. Phil. If someone does that, they'd be airing stuff that can make them pretty vulnerable, which is what I was thinking wasn't such a good idea. But by doing it in such a forum, they should know what they could be in for, opening oneself to the jokes and such around here. And, if one doesn't mind that, then go for it, I guess. *Smile*
Yeh, the answer lies in not giving two shits about what judgments people make. lol
Namaste,
Becky
No, it was orriginally, an overcomers board. I suggest you all read post 1 again. I was on topic when I posted first time round.
Right, just so weget back on topic, here is post 1 again. Let's not have nother debate on where this board should or should not have been posted. Thank you.
Jen.
Just like the addictions graffitti board, I think we should have an Overcomers board. This board would be for those who have overcome things such as: sexual abuse, a natural disaster, a violent crime, a traumatic injury, physical abuse, attempted suicide or other things. It could either be for people currently experiencing something who are looking for comfort or advice or it could be a way for people to discuss their experiences and ways of coping.
You just proved our point by posting the first post again. It is indeed saying that we should have an overcomers board, not that this is an overcomers board.
Now, perhaps you should try to overcome your irritating need to be right by reposting what has already been clearly stated but which you misunderstood.
Jen, I think they're right on this one.
Namaste,
Becky
I, was, on, topic!
No, Jen. You weren't. This particular topic is in the Suggestions board. I am making a suggestion for a board for people who have overcome traumatic experiences. Thank you though for trying to sort things out. Lol.
Ah, lol.
And I was making a suggestion that there should be a board for Zoners who are members of the Overcomer Ministry. It could be a subcategory of the religion board. Maranatha!
I think this is a good idea, an over comers board sounds like a good thing where people can go, and talk about their feelings in private
It wouldn't be private, it'd be on the world wide web, accessible to everybody with an internet connection.
If there's enough interest, we'll create a board or graffiti topic for quite a few areas. We don't mind having lots of boards, as long as they're used. I don't see a lot of people clamoring for this particular idea, however. I could be wrong.
As I've said before, I think this is a good idea. However, I don't think it's a good idea to put it on Graffiti, because (1) not as many people use Graffiti and (2) you still see the posts of people on your ignore list (which is precisely why I don't use Graffiti anymore. I think that if this board were created, it should be put as a subcategory of "Safe Haven" as LGBT discussions is, because it is another topic of a somewhat sensitive nature where bashing should not be tolerated.
Becky
I agree, Becky. Great idea.